I quickly lost touch with Becky after high school. We saw each other a few times in the years I was in college and shortly after, but by the time I was in my mid-twenties (to make a long story short) there really was no friendship left. I gave myself a lot of reasons why, but mostly it was because the drama in her life was difficult for me to deal with at the time. Like many others had done, I cast her aside. A few years ago I got an email from a former high school classmate, who had contacted everyone in our graduating class to let us know that Becky had died. I was shocked and saddened by the news, and felt some regrets, too; mostly that I didn't work harder to keep our friendship alive. Perhaps if I knew she would die so young I would have. I think she had gotten married; I hope her husband was able to provide the kind of self-giving love she so needed, and that her last years were happy ones. I've been thinking about Becky a lot these last few days; I know she would have loved Gavin DeGraw.
(UPDATE, September 2013: Labor Day Weekend of this year I managed to drag my family to another Gavin DeGraw concert, and guess what? They loved it! It wasn't too hard to convince them to go, because there was a baseball game beforehand. I posted a few pictures on my new blog, Eating Slowly; I hope you'll stop by there and take a look!)